Where has the Motivation Gone?

I have been asking myself this question for the past year, where has the motivation gone? When I was in my 20’s I developed a passion for working out. It was part of my routine 3-4 times each week. It made me feel better, look better and sleep better, and I didn’t let anything get in the way of my exercise. I didn’t answer my phone or even the door when I was working out, as I have always worked out at home. Well there was a brief time when I first started out when I went to two different gyms but I got tired of it so I bought workout videos (yes it was VHS back then).


Some people find it difficult to stay motivated to work out at home but I didn’t. In my 20’s I worked jobs where I sat down most of the day so I knew I needed to exercise regularly because of that. This habit continued on into my 30’s. Even during my pregnancies I would exercise and after a brief rest after each baby was born I got back in to my routine. Of course there would be times I would want to skip it but for the most part I was faithful. My love for eating what I want, and not getting fat kept me motivated.

Then I entered my 40’s.


The desire was still there but waning a bit and I started doing lower impact workouts. Premenopause kicked in and my thyroid went haywire so I started putting on a few pounds. By the time I was in my mid 40’s my desire to workout was gone. I knew in my mind that I still needed it but when I was not busy I just wanted to watch TV or get on the internet. I kept exercising, but the bare minimum. It was all I could do to get in twice per week.

Now I’m in my early 50’s and not much has changed. I still have no desire to do it, but on the days I get one in I feel so much better. I get a lot of achy muscles in my neck, shoulders and back and when I exercise I feel much better. Sadly this is probably the only thing keeping me doing as little as I do.

In November last year I purchased a new workout program. It was marked down for the holidays so I bought it then and planned to start in January. Well now it is February and I have not started it yet. I am still going to and I am hoping this is just the thing to get me motivated again, something new and different.

I don’t want to fall apart in my 60’s because I let myself go in my 50’s.  I want to live a long and healthy life.

So where has the motivation I once had gone? Well, maybe it is partly the hormonal changes we women go through, and partly the influence of facebook, instagram and twitter. I think all of these social media sites are great to a degree but I also think we can get lazy because of them. We sit too long in front of our laptops or phones when we should be out taking a walk or being active.

My main goal for the year is to have more balance in my life. I want to limit my time online and be more productive and more active. How do you stay motivated and active in your life?

Motivation comes from within


Happy New Year 2018

Another year has passed and is in the history books. When a new year is beginning do you make new year’s resolutions? I always do, but I like to call them goals because that is what they are. We should always be setting new goals, or renewing old ones, each year. If you want to grow and change and achieve more then you need to be setting goals.

There is something about a new year starting that gets me excited about setting goals and striving to achieve them. I want to look at the good, the bad and the ugly of the past year and strive to be better.

New beginning

This year I have a few repeat goals but also a few new ones. Some people feel if they had a goal last year to lose weight and they failed to lose even one pound then they do not want to make that another goal for the new year. I disagree, I think we keep adding it to our goals until we no longer feel we need to lose that weight. A new year might give us the determination we need to meet that goal.

I am a person who likes to make lists and check things off. It helps me to be organized and there is great satisfaction in checking things off when they are done. When I pack for a trip I make a list of things to pack and check them off once they are in the suitcase, and when packing to return home I check them again to be sure I didn’t forget anything. Admittedly I don’t like it when I make a to-do list and things go unchecked for days or even weeks sometimes, but I have learned that this is okay. It is better to have a plan or a goal than to not plan at all and accomplish nothing. So if I have a yearly goal that never gets met I do not let it bother me. I may feel disappointed that I’m still working on it but I don’t let it get me down.

keep moving forward

My goals for this year are as follows.

  1. Stick to the low-carb diet I started in October 2017.
  2. Lose 9 more pounds.
  3. Write daily. Not necessarily blog daily but write daily.
  4. Blog 1-2 times weekly.
  5. Make more time for daily reading.
  6. Exercise more.
  7. Spend less money.

What are you goals for the new year? I’d love to hear them.


My Writing Journey

Growing up I didn’t read books as much as I do now. I was an average kid who played outside all the time and when it was time to come inside I was watching the television. I enjoyed writing though, although not stories so much as letters, notes, diary entries and lists. It’s too bad that someone, a parent or teacher, didn’t nurture that interest in writing at a young age. The public education system really needs to be overhauled, but that is a whole other story begging for its own blog post.

As I got older I started reading more and more, but writing less and less. Our electronic age has created a world where people do very little actual writing. However, true writers adapted quickly to this change and fell in love with their laptops. For me life got busy having children and being a stay-at-home mom. My children love reading and are both good writers as well. Now that my children are getting older I am getting that writing bug again. Actually I have had it for a couple of years now but have procrastinated on getting started.

The time seems right so I have started this blog to get me writing again. It is still new but I am excited and enjoying it so far. I am planning on just taking it one step at a time and see where this blog takes me. Who knows, I may get a new inspiration and completely change things. My goal is to write a book. I have several ideas but do not feel completely ready for that commitment so for now I will take it one step at a time, one day at a time. The task of writing a book sometimes sounds exciting and other times overwhelming, but if we wait until we feel 100% ready we will never move forward. Our goals should be big and stretch us a bit, or even a lot. I recently ate lunch at Panda Express and this was in my fortune cookie. This is a keeper.