Large Crowds and Concerts

I am a mix of introvert and extrovert. I am not fully committed to either side. In my opinion I am a healthy balance between the two. I do not want to be completely cut off from people but sometimes I like to be alone and don’t want to be around anyone.

Large crowds are not my favorite thing though. Most of the time I will avoid them as much as possible. I do not go to the grocery store until after 9:00 p.m. When I go to Walmart or Target I wait until after 10:00 and I only shop on weekdays. There are fewer people and it is much more peaceful.

Concerts on the other hand are something I love to go to. It is one of the few places where I can tolerate the crowd of people and the close quarters when you sit and when you walk around. The concert experience is worth it. They are not for everyone, like my daughter and my husband, but I go regularly and love every one.

To go and hear a band you love sing and play their music live is a completely different experience from listening to them on the radio, CD or even watching them on YouTube. You get to see more of their personality live and learn a little more about them. You also have a new appreciation for their music.

I mostly listen to Contemporary Christian Music but also enjoy Rock and Pop. I like country music as well, but I do not listen to it very often.

A friend and I went to see Mercy Me and Tenth Avenue North over the weekend. This was my first time seeing them both and they did not disappoint. One HUGE plus for going to a Christian concert is that there is no alcohol served so there are no drunk people. Not always a problem at concerts but it can be.

Mercy Me.

Tenth Avenue North.

Several years ago I took a group of teenagers to see Switchfoot, great in concert by the way, and they were serving beer there. Two of the guys in our group got beer spilled on them, something you don’t want to happen when you are the only adult with a group of other people’s kids.

Switchfoot. Jon Foreman of Switchfoot.

My favorites in concert are Skillet, TobyMac and Daughtry. I have seen TobyMac and Daughtry more than once but Skillet only once. Definitely wanting to see Skillet again. They are amazing in concert, very high energy and a great show.




It is sometimes hard to get good pics on a phone due to all the lights, but it is better than nothing. Something for the memory books.

Who are your favorite bands in concert?


Biological Father vs. Adoptive Father

My parents divorced when I was six years old. My father cheated on my mother so she left him. Two years later she remarried and her husband adopted my brother and I. He has been a good father to us, and we have always considered him to be our dad.  I have not seen my biological father (“real dad”) since the day he left. For many years he did not keep in touch with anyone. He never helped my mom in any way once he left. Men cannot get away with that as easily in today’s world, but apparently he left the state and that was that.

When I was 18 my mother asked me what I would do if my “real dad” came in town and wanted to see me. I told her that I had no desire to see him. He didn’t want me when I was young and now he is a complete stranger. What I didn’t know at the time is that he really was in town then and he wanted her to ask me that question hypothetically. She didn’t tell me this until years later. So he left and didn’t bother us.

Life went on. I got married, had children and moved to Texas. My “real dad” wrote a six page letter to me and sent it to my mom and asked her to send it to me. Basically this letter was a confession of many things he has done wrong in his life and an apology for not being the father he should have been. He included his phone number and email address with hopes that we could stay in touch.

I no longer held a grudge against him. I let go of that years before. His letter seemed sincere and I planned on staying in touch with him, beginning with email. I shared the letter with my husband who didn’t like it and didn’t trust him, especially after reading the kind of life he had led. My husband took it upon himself to email him back and put an end to the communication between us, without my consent or permission. I was pretty upset by his actions because it was not his place.

Apparently my adopted father doesn’t like any of it either. He seems bothered by the fact that I would even consider talking to my biological father. On one hand I can understand his feelings because he has always been there for me and has been a good father for over 40 years. But on the other hand he should know that he cannot be replaced.

My biological father gave up his right to be my dad. He walked away and let someone else take his place and didn’t bother to come around for 12 years. He has regrets and just wants a chance to get to know his children he walked away from. As a Christian I feel I need to forgive him and move forward. He is a complete stranger to me. If he were to die I would kick myself for not reaching out to him.

He has retired now and moved back to the state where we used to live. Most of my family lives there. I visit once every year and plan to see him on my next trip. My mother feels that we should keep it from my dad because it will bother him. I guess that is best but I don’t like being sneaky and lying.

My brother does not know that he has retired and moved back. I’m really hoping to talk my brother in to going to see him with me. He is still holding a grudge against him for leaving. My mom is afraid if I tell my brother about it that he will tell our dad. This all seems ridiculous to me. We are all adults here. I wish we could all act like it.

forgive others



I am married to a DIY guy. He is a do-it-yourself guy all the way. Most of the time this is great. It is nice having a guy around who can fix just about anything, build something, paint, put in new flooring, etc., etc. If he can do something himself he sure ain’t gonna pay someone else to do it. Even if it is something he has never done before, if he thinks he can do it, he will.


On the flip side, he cannot bring himself to pay someone to do things he doesn’t want to do, like yard work. Neither he or I like yard work. We want a nice looking yard but we don’t want to do the work. He will not pay someone to do it for him. He feels it is a waste of money. So, our yard is never as nice as we would like it to be.


He always changed the oil in our cars. Talk about a pain in the butt! You have to recycle the oil. Thankfully, he finally started paying someone to do this, after more than 30 years of doing it himself.

Last year we bought new furniture for the family room. I found a few different end tables that I liked that would look great with the furniture we bought, but he wanted to build new tables. I gotta be honest here, when he told me that I cringed. I was picturing plain, ugly tables that I would be embarrassed by. I tried talking him out of it but he was determined so I had to back down.

The tables turned out better than I thought they would but admittedly they are still not what I wanted. I told him I liked them and let it go because it isn’t worth arguing about.

One other downside to a DIY guy is that sometimes their projects can take longer than they anticipate, or they may lose interest before they finish. This has happened a couple of times to my husband. I try to understand that he has a full-time job and these projects are in addition to that job, but when the project is a half completed deck that is sitting not getting worked on or walls that need to be finished painting inside the house, it is a struggle between your understanding and your patience let me tell you!

The upside to my DIY husband is that he has made us beautiful bookshelves and bed frames for our children which match the toy boxes my dad made them with their names on them. He has also saved us a lot of money over the years since we didn’t have to pay someone to do many of these things for us, or buy furniture at the store which is usually less quality than he can make. He has also been able to fix our washing machine, dishwasher and oven, and add a light to our coat closet. Why wouldn’t the builder put a light in there in the first place? Builders can be so aggravating, but that is a whole other story.

This is one of the bookshelves he built for our home, before he stained it. The cabinets underneath are great storage for board games.

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So the good has definitely outweighed the bad for DIY projects in our home. Do you have a DIY person in your home, or do you wish you did?


Ecclesiastes 3:22 – Wherefore I perceive that there is nothing better, than that a man should rejoice in his own works; for that is his portion…

Where has the Motivation Gone?

I have been asking myself this question for the past year, where has the motivation gone? When I was in my 20’s I developed a passion for working out. It was part of my routine 3-4 times each week. It made me feel better, look better and sleep better, and I didn’t let anything get in the way of my exercise. I didn’t answer my phone or even the door when I was working out, as I have always worked out at home. Well there was a brief time when I first started out when I went to two different gyms but I got tired of it so I bought workout videos (yes it was VHS back then).


Some people find it difficult to stay motivated to work out at home but I didn’t. In my 20’s I worked jobs where I sat down most of the day so I knew I needed to exercise regularly because of that. This habit continued on into my 30’s. Even during my pregnancies I would exercise and after a brief rest after each baby was born I got back in to my routine. Of course there would be times I would want to skip it but for the most part I was faithful. My love for eating what I want, and not getting fat kept me motivated.

Then I entered my 40’s.


The desire was still there but waning a bit and I started doing lower impact workouts. Premenopause kicked in and my thyroid went haywire so I started putting on a few pounds. By the time I was in my mid 40’s my desire to workout was gone. I knew in my mind that I still needed it but when I was not busy I just wanted to watch TV or get on the internet. I kept exercising, but the bare minimum. It was all I could do to get in twice per week.

Now I’m in my early 50’s and not much has changed. I still have no desire to do it, but on the days I get one in I feel so much better. I get a lot of achy muscles in my neck, shoulders and back and when I exercise I feel much better. Sadly this is probably the only thing keeping me doing as little as I do.

In November last year I purchased a new workout program. It was marked down for the holidays so I bought it then and planned to start in January. Well now it is February and I have not started it yet. I am still going to and I am hoping this is just the thing to get me motivated again, something new and different.

I don’t want to fall apart in my 60’s because I let myself go in my 50’s.  I want to live a long and healthy life.

So where has the motivation I once had gone? Well, maybe it is partly the hormonal changes we women go through, and partly the influence of facebook, instagram and twitter. I think all of these social media sites are great to a degree but I also think we can get lazy because of them. We sit too long in front of our laptops or phones when we should be out taking a walk or being active.

My main goal for the year is to have more balance in my life. I want to limit my time online and be more productive and more active. How do you stay motivated and active in your life?

Motivation comes from within


Spiritual Battle in Washington

When I watched the State of the Union Address I was impressed. I am continually amazed at the kind of President Donald Trump has become. He was not my first choice for President in 2016 but he is proving that he means what he says and he truly seems to want what is best for America.

While watching the SOTU and noticing the Democrats who would not stand or even clap, even on issues they support, I was struck by what a spiritual battle this is. Of course most of us know this is a spiritual battle but when watching two sides in one room like that it was like watching the battle live.

How else can you describe how the majority of Democrats would not even clap when the President talked about immigration and the deal he made with them on DACA? As the President stated neither side got exactly what they wanted but both sides had to give a little for the good of the country. Yet when you watch the Democrats while he talked about this you would think that he said he is deporting them all tomorrow.

When the President talked about tax reform and how it is helping small businesses and workers, and more businesses investing in America many Democrats stayed seated and couldn’t be bothered to clap. Do they really love America? Do they really want what is best for America?

The Democrats did not even looked pleased when he talked about how the unemployment rates are historically lower among blacks and hispanics.

President Trump supports the military, veterans, small businesses, protecting religious liberty, protecting the unborn, better healthcare, legal immigration, putting Americans first, fair trade, lower prescription drugs and more. The more the President talked about positive, bipartisan goals the more uncomfortable the Democrats looked. It’s as if their dislike of this man being President is more important to them than doing what is best for the American people.

How can there be so much hate towards him when he wants what is best for our country? Because this is a spiritual battle that’s how. It may be too late for most of the Democrats in Washington but we need to pray that the people who vote Democrat will open their eyes and see the truth.


I’m taking a risk here by talking about this, but I have thoughts and they need to come out. I’m not trying to start an argument or even a debate, but I welcome comments. Please keep it civil or your comments will be removed. Thank you in advance.

Thank you meme

I have never been a racist. Now I know what some of you are thinking, that is exactly what a racist would say, but it’s true. I have always believed that we are all created equal by God.

I grew up in the Midwest in mostly white towns and neighborhoods, but I always made friends with minorities. I didn’t view them as different, but I was aware that many people did and that made me feel sorry for them and want to be nice to them even more. I wanted them to realize that not all white people are like that.

When I moved out on my own and started working in the city I had a lot of coworkers and bosses who were minorities. I even dated a couple of black guys who were also coworkers. When I started going to church in my mid 20’s it was probably about 3/4 white and 1/4 minorities.

Now I live in Texas and have for many years and am exposed to a lot of minorities. Churches we have gone to here are usually about 50/50 when it comes to whites and minorities. I have had several black friends but none that I’ve been super close to or would call my best friends. I say all of this to show you what my experience is with minorities, mostly black people.

It seems to me that people have become more and more divided over the past decade. Not only that but more and more black people are protesting and crying racism. Some were not even wanting to celebrate Independence Day because they said they are ashamed of their country. Really? Are things truly that bad? This is hard for me to understand. It seems to me that things have gotten better over the last 50 years.

As a white woman I would just like to explain how I see things. I see more and more men and women of color getting modeling and acting jobs, becoming Mayors, Governors, Congressman and Senators, high paid athletes, CEO’s, business owners, college professors and more.

So when I see people like Jada Pinkett Smith complaining about not enough blacks on the Oscar nominations I have a hard time taking that seriously. There are black actors who have gotten nominated numerous times and won awards as well; Denzel Washington, Samuel L. Jackson, Morgan Freeman, Jamie Foxx, James Earl Jones, Don Cheadle and Idris Elba to name a few.

Could there be more people of color getting nominations? Of course, but there are a lot of white actors who have never won awards as well. You don’t see them protesting.  There are A LOT of actors, but only so many can be nominated and even fewer win. I think Jada was fighting the wrong fight. Maybe not enough black actors get the roles they deserve. But I have to be honest here, I don’t think her husband is a very good actor. He’s okay but not that impressive. The list of names above are all better actors than Wil Smith. Just sayin.

And what about the take a knee protest? This also seems like nonsense to me. We honor the flag for those who fight for our freedoms and what this country stands for. So in my opinion when you take a knee you are not honoring those who fought for your freedoms in America. Is this country perfect? Of course not, but perhaps these people who think it is so terrible here should visit other countries and see if they still feel the same way.

Why do so many protests by minorities turn violent? When violence is added to a protest it is no longer a protest but a riot. Do they really think this will help their cause? It only makes them look bad and most people no longer want to hear anything they have to say. They lose their credibility when they incite violence.

There have been stories in the media about cops mistreating blacks and I am sure that some of this goes on, but sometimes what I see is black people who show no respect for police officers. Some argue and yell at police and then wonder why the cops get violent with them. Put yourself in their shoes. They don’t know if you have a weapon and what is in your head. If you are showing anger towards them then you might try to harm them. They have to try to stop things from getting worse. They are there to serve and protect so they should be shown respect instead of argued with and yelled at.

peace begins in my heart

I am not saying that I am right or wrong but just sharing my point of view, as a white person. I think many white people see what I see and we do not understand all of the protesting.

The Things We Do For Family

Sometimes we surprise ourselves at what we will do for those we love. Even better when we surprise our loved ones by what we will do for them.

I am not an animal lover per se, but I am not an animal hater either. I’m just one of those people who would choose not to have a pet. I have two children and a husband so I do not really need one more living thing to take care of.

Five years ago we decided to get a dog for the girls. Our intention was to get it for our youngest child who has health and social issues. However, the dog immediately bonded with our older daughter. This dog was really a good fit for our family.


My girls were surprised at how I would play with the dog and take her on walks when they were too busy. I love that. They think they know me and I blow their little minds!



Last year I told my younger daughter that we should get her a dog that is hers. She couldn’t believe it. She never thought we would have even one dog and now I’m suggesting that we get another. Yeah, anyone who knows me knows that is YUGE! Again, if it were up to me I wouldn’t have a pet, but the girls are both animal lovers and I really think it will be good for my younger daughter.

So right now we are shopping for another dog. Praying that we get another one that is perfect for our family. Yes, I actually do pray about this. A pet is a big deal, especially for me, so I want one that is a good fit for us.